It is a difficult situation and if you exclude sex the pickings are slim, but they are there. I have been in a relationship for 8 years now with the most wonderful man. For the first few years I just kept telling him I wasn't ready... he tried his luck now and again but he understood that I wanted to wait longer and he stayed by my side. A few years ago I told him everything that happened to me when I was in high school and his reaction was firstly that he left me, but he came back after 3 months and told me that he wants to be with me and marry me even if I choose never to have sex again... Now that's a match made in heaven.

What I'm trying to say is that it is good to stop dating and find yourself again, but don't despair in all men because there are a few gems out there...