Thinking of negative transference, for me, I think it is embarrassing because I feel I should "know better." I know my T isn't my mother but yet I reacted to him as if he would act like my mother (shaming me) in a particular incident in therapy. Even his directly telling me to think back in our relationship for evidence that he was not going to react that way did not help. It made me embarrassed because we have a good relationship and I should not be thinking so ill of him, thinking he would be like my mother. Made me want to hang my head. But he didn't take it personally or anything. Me--I thought it dishonored our relationship. We did eventually get past it...