hi kellyann.

firstly, can i just say, you dont sound like a lousy mother from where im sat. its good to see you care enough to find sites such as these to try to find a solution to the problem in hand...but a solution sometimes might not be found by you.

you have to pass control of this to your daughter, however worrying this may be to you, she is the only one who knows whats really going on in her head. when shes ready for help, she will let you know.

when people experience events such as a car accident that was caused by a blackout, or siezure, this can trigger emotional breakdowns. the non-stop partying etc is all side effects of this and they will gradually fade. please, try and ride it out.

all you can poosibly do right now for your daughter is to let her know you are there for her, if she should need you.

she is also at that age where all she wants to do is party, and she now has an excuse for doing it. she will see this soon, and that is when she will need help.

so all i can say really is to try to carry on as normal, dont lose sleep if shes not home, dont worry about how or where she is. she will be with people she knows and so she is safe. you cant let it effect your life to the extent that it is, you have to step back, it will do her better if you did step back, than if you smothered her...as smothering will cloud her vision and make it harder for her to realise what needs to be done. just be ready for her when she needs you.

i hope everything works out, and i will get in touch soon to see how things are going ok. speak soon kellyann. take care

simon