Thank you both so much for taking the time to answer, really appreciate it! I've discussed her coldness in a roundabout way. I've told her I like to know a bit about my Ts because I don't like them to seem like robots. I've also mentioned that warmth and empathy were qualities that two ppl I've worked with (first T and also body work T) had that made our relationship work. You're right though, maybe I can bring it up again. I should mention that she seems like too much of a blank slate for me to open up to. It would take guts. In the past she's told me that she's felt like I'm tying her hands and she can't do her job. She's also said along the lines you have, that she can't change her personality. I'll wait a bit because she's sick right now and hasn't been able to see me for the past couple of weeks. Usually her answers about the subject end up feeling triggering to me, and like she wants me to leave her. Sigh. I wish she was someone she is not.