Passion does sound like bp warning signs. She sounds like both older 2 who have bp dx. My daughter has grown out of so much of it, 18 now. She takes care of cleaning her room now, she is much kinder. All this is still with a lot of my help, she's not anywhere near ready to be an adult, go to college, get a job, live on her own. Sometimes with bp, just staying alive is a full time job, so it's baby steps.

I don't think it's as simple as she's just manipulating. She may like the attention, she probably needs the attention. So much is at risk at this age, so much. Keep listening to her, let her have some say so and control over the meds that go in her body. Try not to engage with her in her mean-ness, just let her spew it all out like baby diarrhea, don't judge her, tell her things like - hey what you just said hurts and please don't be rude and I love you. When she wants to bring up the past and run circles of words around you, you can say - Ok I'm sorry that went down like that in the past, what can I do to help you right now? Tell her more than often how much you love her, maybe clean her room for her so she can start to manage it better, and watch her like a hawk, so much at risk at that age.

Just brainstorming ideas, raising bp kids is tricky business. I know she may not even have bp, so hard to tell at that age. But just hits home with me, sounds so much like my daughter.