So true Amandalouise.
I think I understand what you are saying about how it helped me way back when I was a child and now I'm realising that what worked then actually does not work now that I'm an adult.
I'm in the process of EMDR and working through the traumas, and it is after EMDR that I've gained a bit of insight and self actualisation. So far I've had my eight year old personality integrate with the help of my protector and my mothering personality.
The borderline personality tried to interfere but my protector blocked her from verbally abusing our T.
I was present through it all however I couldn't voice my opinion at the time. I don't believe I have co conciousness though.