we've talked a bit about "little struggles" and shes said..."well we're going to grow you up 25yrs"....and she knows im scared of being needy and having needs and being attached....i always wonder what that means when they says "contain"....what do they do? what does that mean? cause i think once i let all my s**t fly there will be no containing whatsoever! big struggling will go off the deep end for sure!!