I told my current H about what happened on our 4th or 5 th date. I didn't want to tell that to him to early. I just didn't wan't to put my self threw that if he was not going to be someone long term. I waited until I knew I liked him alot. I also told him early enough that I was not totally connected to him emotionally. So if he wanted nothing to do with me I would not be to heartbroken. We waited about 6 months after I told him before we had sex. He may have been cautious due to that or he had one prier sexual experience and the girl didn't want to pursue a relationship after that. ( A difficult ego blow) Believe it or not thoughts of the rape never occured to me because he was extra kind and gentle. I didn't give him all the details of what happened and still have not even after being married for 18 years. If you say it it seams so much more real. I don't even want to go there, I may never.