Oh dear, I started a firestorm. My hubby may be a boar and a brute, but he's not violent towards me. I called my T to tell her what happened and she told me she didn't intend to be brutally honest with him, but he was so defensive, dismissive and unapologetic that she felt she couldn't get through to him any other way. She also said that I looked (as bad as) the first few times I saw her, nearly 2 years ago ... she described me as looking like I'd been shaken and with a deer in the headlights look. I had no idea this was the case, and it scares me a bit that I am so cowed by him.

My whole reason for being in therapy right now is to get the courage to stand up for myself, which may include kicking him out if he cannot change his ways. I'm praying for a miracle, of course, but not counting on one. He did agree to go to therapy and has been one time, but he came home already with excuses on why it won't work.

I thank you all for the helpful information. I'm moved and touched you all and love my PC friends/family.

Regards,
Lori