i have tried to make this into a sort of game, in which I see the ppl in my life who trigger me and say to myself....oh, there goes BIG SIS. Or, my boss's husband....oh, gosh, hey..DAD!

The people I have the most trouble with tend to echo those troubling relationships from my past.

So, that's been the benefit of a few rough scrapes with transference in therapy. So why the hell couldn't a therapist somewhere down the line have taken me aside and said, hey, this is what might happen...and this is the lesson that you could glean from it...instead, I just foundered through. Honestly? This board has helped me sort through this MUCH more than any therapist ever did, and I have had some good ones!

Maybe they just lose perspective on this!