Hello ,
How are you doing today!!!
I exactly know what you feel and have been through a very similar situation with by ex.I am in process of getting divorced.

Please ,you do not have to be needy;and he is noone to preach you to stand for yourself when he is the one who is deciding to run away from responsibility and find faults in you.

i am serious ,please with confidence thank him for the lecture he has given you;and say that ofcourse I will go ahead and see whether I am good or bad person;leave him ,say yes to the divorce and start taking care of yourself and the child;
If you feel, you really have any issues,work on them for your good;do not let anybody run on you and question you 'When was the last time you visited church for praying,bla, bla,bla'......he is the one who is selfish and can think of no more than his immediate happiness and hence has decided to run away from his responsibility and marraige;he was supposed to be there to give you support in case you ahd any short-comings;and he had the right to quit only when you were not determined to change the bad;;;;;;;

This is what someone wrote to me and am sharing this with you:
What Marriage is NOT: It is not 2 perfect People who celebrate that perfection the rest of their lives. What it IS, is two People who are Imperfect, who have Suffered in one way or another (as we all do), and who, if they are Very Lucky and Work Very hard at it, can sometimes Heal Each Other. When They do, They are right to call it True Love. This I know is true. This have today

I I have accepted,the person(now termed as my EX) never loved me (we had an abusive relation ship and I was always determined to be with him;it has been 1 month now I have agreed to the divorce(and I used to anxious and devasted because I thought marraige is for a life time and only death separates us,thus mentality made me suffer so much);today I know I do not need a husband to be happy;

Please,Please take care of yourself!!!!!!!!!!Do not let yourself be hurt by that man anymore;he does not feel and understand you now;you move on with your life,he might realize someday in life;how he hurt you;;;;

Now it might be difficult,but cut all ties with him and focus on you.There is something called the 180, do that;
God bless you,
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