Yeah seeker 1950!!! I agree with you 100%. I have been told I am codependant to the point I felt guilty any time I ask for help. I hate the word codependant. Why would God put us on earth together if we weren't allowed to depend on others. He also gave Adam Eve not Jane, Lori, etc. Did he ever want him to think she was just another person living on the same planet as he was. He gave her to him as his mate. There was no one else but them and life was perfect. The sad thing happened when Eve got curious and doubted Gods word and they ate the apple. This is where codependancy has created doubt in our minds and we constantly change with cultures opinion of what is right and wrong. Trying to be so analytical about what is codependancy and what isn't is driving me crazy. I think being open in a relationship about what your boundaries are so that you both know how much freedom you expect from one another. If it isn't enough or too free you don't match each other, don't marry. Our culture has changed the way the bible is interpreted, it is my impression of something I won't get into. Along time ago women were to cover their face in the temple and by no means speak their mind. Today we have women who are ministers, etc. Times change and so does the interpretation of the bible. We have to allow our spirit to tell us what interpretation we wish to follow. It eases our mind from the pain of questioning our beliefs. I felt I was too codependant on my husband so we began to give each other more space. He found a new space with another woman. Now we both found this to be too much space. I am not with him but chances are if we hadn't given each other so much freedom we may have stayed together. Telling someone you need them isn't wrong, if they think you are so independant you don't need them they may go looking for someone who they can depend on.