Monkey, you say if you had known sooner about her problems, maybe you could have fixed things -- NO you couldn't because if he is BP, she needs to be "fixed" by a therapist. YOU can't fix things. She is sick -- and no one else but a doctor/psychiatrist is going to be able to make things better. As hard as you tried, you couldn't make things better. She would just keep pushing you further and further away.

As for the child -- it's better for the child to have a part-time father than NO father at all! Believe me. Having a male figure in the child's life is going to be extremely important, expecially if the male figures truly loves him/her. With any luck, she'll give you as much time as you like with the child -- it won't be structured by the courts. But even if it is, as least the child will HAVE a father and that's the most important thing!!! This isn't about HER -- it's about the CHILD. If she wants to be miserable, oh well. She doesn't HAVE to be. She can follow her therapist's advice and get along with you for the SAKE of the child. But it's not about EITHER of you.