Hi I am new here and hoping to pick some adhd brains... if that's ok. i'll be gentle : )

I am worried so much for my son. He is five years old and in year 1 of our local state school. It is a lovely school, but we are having very many problems with his behaviour and I am concerned he may end up being excluded or at the very least rejected by his peers and their parents.

We do not have a diagnosis for him, having been in 'the system' with his community paediatrician since age 2. He has been tested for autism using ADOS and this came back as not autistic. This being said, he has some traits - repetitive behaviours, sensory sensitivities, easily upset, flops on floor and is unresponsive as if zoned out, communication problems (language and social). However, he is not scorable on ADOS for autism. Looking at ADHD, he scores as the combined type (according to my answers on the vanderbilt scale) for inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsiveness. We have always wondered if he is ADHD but the community paed refuses to formally assess for this until age 7! what!!!!????

His assessments have shown he is on the 1st percentile for core language skills (receptive and expressive) so basically you cannot so any worse than this score. He has a history of social communication problems and developmental delay. He is also quite defiant - and worryingly does not seem to learns from mistakes. SO he just keeps doing the wrong things over and over - as if he cannot think ahead to the consequence that will come, and then when he does get the consequence, he really gets upset and starts hitting himself in the head and head bangs the floor.

So he is a mix of lots of problem behaviours. His school say he is special needs, and want to get him a statement. Our first request for one was denied. They have had to physically pick him up and move him out of the playground and other places because he just refuses to move. He touches other children too much and inappropriately eg stroking a boys hair or standing too close or touching noses intensely, and he kinda scares other kids with his random impulsiveness - like he waves his arms around suddenly, and pulls weird faces and makes loud weird noises. But it doesn't seem 'autistic' exactly, it's almost like he has all this energy building up inside and it comes out suddenly in an eccentric way.

Well anyway, today he bit a boy, and I was obviously shocked about this. Apparently he likes the boy, and was just playing with his when without warning he bit him on the arm. He is impulsive like that. I don't think he wants to be mean. He just thinks he is being fun, and doesn't realise he is breaking social regs. It would not have been a hard bite - more playful but then too much. Arg. it's hard to explain.

Does any of this sound like adhd? He constantly moves about and almost vibrates with energy.

Any input would be great. I am trying to get in the mind of adhd.

Thanks for reading i know it was long.
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