Hi s4ndm4n2006, Like Mara I'm also currently married and surprised that she has put up with me thru all the crap I have put her thru. I remember when I was single that I didn't have all the issues either and I think it was because there wasn't anyone their to "let me down" on my expectations. I think I would always expect things "should" be this way, or they "should" know that without me telling them. Basically a whole lot of distortions kicking in because there was somebody else to interact with, and when they aren't there, there is no sense that you are not being validated. I think that even though your BPD symptoms are decreased it is still very worth while to work on the skills to help with them so if you get into another relationship you can help yourself and at the same time objectively help the other person understand what is going on. I know I have always wondered if a person with BPD was in a relationship with someone else who had BPD how it would work, I know my T say's to not go there.