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Originally Posted by Leed
Well, it's obvious you have HUGE issues with your Dad for NOT being the MAN he should have been, thus putting you in that position. You don't respect him, correct? And that kind of embarrasses you because you can't respect him or hold him up to your friends. You probably don't even want to introduce him to your friends, right? And as for your Mom, she evidently made all the rules, and disciplined you kids, Evidently she had a lot of issues (?) but she 'fixed' herself. The issues with your Dad and your Mom surely made both you and your sister have problems of your own, which you didn't know how do deal with, and you had no one to turn to --- so now it's really raising cain with you in your adult lives!!
Mike you didn't have a normal "home'" life so it's hard for you to know how to lead a normal life in your OWN home & marriage. You talk about a counselor, I hope it's a psychiatrist who is licensed to treat patients both medically & psychologically. You do need therapy so I hope you have a good therapist.
Keep us posted on how you're doing Mike. We'll be here. And keep talking. It helps. Hugs, Lee
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Thanks Lee,
I know i've had issues with my dad, Causing a lot of fighting between me and my parents. Now that i moved out i reailzed my mom wasn't all I thought she was and she really was just as much of the problem (i started splitting with her at 13 but never told her just went a long with everything because if she was happy then everyone was happy, livin on eggshells sucks). Which is a struggle for me to comprehend.It makes me feel lied to and that all of my life has been a lie. I am thinking about asking the consulor for a referral.