Just wanted to let you know that you are NOT alone. I have the same problems. My child parts (or any of me) doesn't know what it feels like to be "comforted". If someone tries to hug me I push them away. The child parts do not trust the adult me, if I even am an adult. I don't tolerate intense emotions and do many things to get away from them. I try to find a memory of really feeling comforted and I can't. I think lack of trust is a large part of it. (Could it be that the "comforting" people were also the hurting ones?)

Big HUGS