I don't know if I am understanding what you are talking about. I just love the way things are now with knowing who the people I associate with are and just accept each others personalities. It goes a long way towards cultivating confidence in making things work out. We have a teenager who has ADD that works where we do and we don't expect more from him than he can handle. Our boss is great with him. She has arranged things so he is helpful but we don't depend on him fully because we know his shortcomings. Surprisingly enough it is beneficial to him as well as ourselves even if it isn't a perfect situation. He may be dependant all his life but at least he is trying.