I thought it might get to you, it was getting to me! My t said this week, he was lucky to have this kind of job, where he gets to do stuff like this, ie be there for people? but I do notice a change in myself. even though he's my T, before I couldn't even ask him in a polite way how he was doing - now I can. before, I really was too narcissistic, but I couldn't accept a glass of water. now, I can insist on a clean glass! it's weird.