Hi there
I'm on my way out right now, but have you considered couples counselling? It really can help, but you both have to work at it too, along with the counselor (I've been there) but then everyone is different and want different things out of their relationships, so I can't speak for everyone.
But it may be worth a try, unless you both have already decided to split. It is not always a good idea to just base things on sex or lack of, I'm not saying you are so don't get annoyed with me, it is just another issue that really wreaks (spelling?) havoc in a relationship pushing each other further away from one another. Marriage I know from my own personal experiences comes with no guarntees, and can be really tough at times finances are a ***** too making the relationship more sensitive. Okay I don't have all the answers, boy do I know that, ha!ha! Just my 2 cents, but try a marriage counselor first before losing it all.
I wish you lots of love and luck with this, it can be really tough but hang in there and whatever happens don't lose "yourself" I almost did and it is taking me time to get back, with a lot of work it is possible.
Feel free to drop by anytime, the others here are so supportive, give good info and suggestions.
"darkeyes"