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Oct 19, 2012, 11:39 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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I understand what you're saying. This happens in my HOME with my daughter. I try to set boundaries, and stop the using and taking advantange -- but it doesn't work! I'm just not heard!!! I can't change the other person -- the only person I can change is ME. But the trouble is, if I continue to speak softly and calmly like I HAVE been, I just don't get heard -- experience has shown me that. So I HAVE to raise my voice in order to be heard -- and that in turn starts an argument because SHE has a short fuse!!!  So nothing gets accomplished.  I ask her NOT to yell & scream, but that does no good. So we're right back where we started. And the big problem is she LIVES with me.
It's an impossible situation -- and one that I can't figure out. Nothing works, so .....................
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The truth shall set you free but first it will make you miserable..........................................Garfield
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