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Originally Posted by stressedtoinfinity
I'm a freshman in college, I'm a year younger than the majority of the freshman here and I've never been in a relationship, i've never even gone on a date--- by choice. Throughout my life i've been asked out 16 times, and even though I feel mean by saying no, I just don't feel like I need anyone. I like being single. I don't party, i've never smoked or done drugs, and I drank once in paris and hated it. I like being in control of myself.
My mom keeps telling me to get a boyfriend, that i'm beautiful and need experience; she's really pushing me. My older sister started dating when she was a freshman in high school and lost her virginity her senior year in high school. Maybe my mom's comparing us?
My mom tells me i'm just afraid to open up to someone. And maybe she's right. But to me, I just LIKE being alone. Maybe I don't feel the need for romance because i've never experienced it, I dunno. Does anyone else feel this way? or am i just 100% abnormal?
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I don't think you're even remotely abnormal. Relationships should be something that people take a lot more seriously than they do and if they decide they don't want to be alone, take more time to begin them. It seems as though the world does make one think that it's almost a given that people will want to have a gf/bf, get married, have children and so on.. but really it's not true. I have an uncle that is over 60 now and he was happily single into his 50s when he did decide he wanted to get married. I never thought he was abnormal at all. I don't think you are either.
I'm separated from my wife, getting divorced (thankfully) and a fulltime single dad. I'm in a place right now where I'm not sure what I want, whether it's just be alone for awhile or not. At this point, I see a lot of positives toward being single by choice, that is not trying to find someone but choosing to continue to be alone. Fact is with a new relationship comes a lot of complexity to my life and I'm just not sure I want all that just yet. I'm sure someday but right now I don't know.
I can understand you enjoying your singlehood. Be content that if it's what brings you joy, then it doesn't matter if you're part of the majority or minority.