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I agree with listening to the spirit. I understand that when two people depend on each other it can hurt sometimes. The first thing the lady with the bad legs said the day the ADD boy messed up was fire him. I looked at her and luckily the boss explained his illness and she shut up. We all understand her physical limitations and deal with it, she is now learning physical as well as emotional are equal. I know it hurts, but there are ways to allow each other to depend on each other and be there to help them. I do know codependancy is often the case in alcohalics and no way should someone encourage bad behavior but it would be okay to be there for them if you can. My aunts husband was an alcoholic, she was there through it all. He has been dry for years, things that happened affected their family but they made it as a couple and can how help make their family strong again. I don't know just things to think about.

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For us, we do not want to encourage bad behaviour. Rather we want to encourage a Godly way, and we want to try and not worry.

like that faith person said.. we need to keep the faith.. but guess what, we do also need counselling. possibly premaritaly counselling of sorts.