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Leed · Oct 19, 2012, 01:46 PM

Bless your heart. Yes, you DO have a temper. But your temper doesn't come out until he has done something awful to you. For instance, after he married you, he continued to flirt and act like a single man, all the while he was married to you! That is not how a married man is supposed to act! Any wife would get angry about that. But YOU carry the anger a little too far. You get EXTREMELY angry, and lose control. You need to control your anger. You need help with that.

Then when he leaves you for periods of time -- you're left not knowing where he is or when he's coming back! Any wife would get angry and upset about that. And of course she wouldn't TRUST her husband after that either. Any wife would think that her husband was with other women. That would make any wife angry. But again -- YOU get TOO angry, and lose control. Most women would love to hit their men over the head with a frying pan, but they DON'T DO IT.

This abuse continues, with him asking you for a divorce the first time, and then not going thru with it, and then separating, blah blah blah.

Finally you get divorced. And now you're still very angry. But you need to learn how to control this anger that you have before someone gets HURT. And if you ever have another relationship, you don't want to ruin it with your anger.

You need to see a therapist. A good therapist will be able to help you with all this anger. There is something at the bottom of this that is causing all this anger, and it might not be your husband. It could go back even farther so you need to get to the bottom of it. A good therapist can help you do that. So find a good therapist and make an appointment. You won't regret it. I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care. I'm sure you'll be fine after therapy. Take care. Hugs, Lee