Thanks, Determined...
I am not suggesting this is the right choice for everyone, and do not condemn premarital sex. In the choices I've made since my divorce, however, in building relationships, I actually FELT secure and that trust was there, only to be hurt and very disappointed, especially with myself, wishing I had been smarter and abstained from sex. So, in my case, abstinance is the healthier choice, and if the guy can't handle it, I guess I'd feel bad, but will be taking care of myself for a change instead of someone else's needs!
Patty