I think you are a teenager and I'm not sure what I have to say will be helpful to you.

But I think that it is not possible for a T to always be there as you are expecting. The only time a T for sure has for you is during your sessions that are scheduled. If you need her outside of session, you have to give her time to be able to get back to you, whether it's by email or text or phone. And lots of people who are not teenagers don't really "do" text and email for emotional content, so it's very likely that we middle aged people will "sound" cold via these technological devices because we use them strictly for informational purposes, not for emotional ones. And I don't think that therapy via email or text is likely to be very effective, or at least I haven't seen any research that suggests that it is. Many of us middle aged people just don't do anything well via text or email, so it's unlikely that your T can truly be helpful outside of session in the way you might want her to be.

I think there is also another way to see her perspective that she thinks you have control over whatever it going on with you. Part of that is as you mature you realize how Much Power You Have to change your life and with it, the distress that comes from emotional and social dysfunction. But one has to learn how to harness and access and channel her power, and that is something your T can help you with. She is not saying that you are to blame for feeling overwhelmed or any other negative emotion, or that you can just magically choose to feel differently. She is trying to empower you to use the strengths that you have to learn to tolerate uncomfortable emotions, to gain enough perspective on them so that you can feel safe that you can get to the other side, and otherwise have some sense that there is life beyond the stuff that rattles around in your head.