So, I was just recently diagnosed with BPD.... but the major feature I am missing is the (supposedly classic/typical) "abandonment issues.
(I really don't think that I have anymore relationship struggles than the ordinary person, except that I'm very shy/quite/reserved.)

To be honest, it would be pretty flippin' hard for me to have abandonment issues- because I don't really associate with anyone.
I keep seeing everywhere how "people with BPD often struggle with interpersonal relationships because of their tendency to idealize, and then suddenly devalue a person."

But I don't know.... I just really have a few key relationships in my life; mostly my mom, my therapist, and maybe- to some degree - the rest of my family (sort of.... but not too much, because my siblings and I don't get along at all.) But I know exactly who they are, and I know their behaviors. I don't set them on a pedestal or on the floor. My opinions of the people I'm close to is fairly concrete, and VERY consistent. Sure, I get pissy at them a lot (again, mostly my bro and sis), but that doesn't change the way I view them at all.

SO, my question is this: Can someone without any real relationships- outside of immediate family- which isn't because of my behaviors or attitudes or emotions or anything; that was MY choice (I don't "click" well with my peers, so I don't really have any friends- except for a few people, that are more artistic and zany, such as myself )- really have BPD???