I agree with Darkeyes. The next step is marriage counseling. It takes two to make a relationship. A therapist can help each of you see your part in the dynamic of your relationship. Once you see that you can decide what to do next. I just read an article in *Zen blushes* O magazine that difficulties in marriage are necessary and even healthy because they give us a chance to heal the wrongs that happened to us as children. I have heard this many times but it still irritates the hell out of me. Why would I want to replay all that crud over again? But apparently we do and until we learn to deal with it in a healthy manner we will just keep on reliving it over and over again. That sounds so depressing but on the other hand it is rather exciting to think that the problems that I am having with my husband today is actually helping me to heal the old hurts from long ago.
Take care,
Zen

<font color=blue>"I am just so tired."
<font color=green>"You can say you're tired as much as you want but you still have to do something about it. Now can you think of any way to deal with this problem."
<font color=blue> "No"
<font color=green>"Then I don't know what I can do for you if you are not willing to try."--from Zen's therapy session