I'm glad you got a second opinion on your diagnosis, wiltedrose2394! Your description definitely didn't seem like depression alone. I think BPD and psychotic depression sound a lot more like what you described.

How exactly did you give your therapist the list? What I mean is, I think I am either misdiagnosed or missing additional diagnoses. I feel awkward bringing that up with my therapist because I always get the impression that they think they would have noticed any missing/misdiagnoses when I started therapy, not years later. Did you just give her a list or did you say you think you are misdiagnosed and you'd like her opinion?