One of the things I like best about my T is healthy modeling of behavior. Sure, he's not perfect...but it gives me a different perspective on how I want to be treated. Unfortunately, my family falls very, very short. They are judgmental, accusatory and self-righteous. I always knew that my distance from my family came from how badly I felt about myself around them....cuz they were always putting me down.

But what being in T is teaching me is to not allow those things to happen to me anymore. I stood up to my mom and my niece the other day for this very thing - they were being judgmental and rude to my daughter because of their own opinion, trying to make her feel bad....And I went at them like a spider monkey.....OK, so maybe I should've have been so harsh towards them - but, it was progress for me to defend myself and demand better treatment.

As an aside, I hope you feel better soon! I am miserable with a bad cold as well, and it sux.....(( HUGS ))