Thank you all for your supportive words! I need some good feeding right now.

Sarah116... The system you're talking about isn't something that works with our son and his asperger. We always try to keep calm and get him to tell us what's bothering him. The thing is... it won't come until HE IS READY.
One method you're using today, might not work tomorrow. It changes all the time.
The person I saw today, she said that I really know my boy well. I feel like I know him... what is going on inside of him, pretty well. But the problem is to keep handling him... day after day... it's so draining. The energy is close to zero now. We need some help! But the persons who are supposed to help, doesn't know enough and doesn't understand just how bad things are. It makes us feel like nothing more than, whining parents. But the woman I saw today she UNDERSTOOD! She has got the right knowledge about asperger and a lot of experience working with kids and adults having this disorder. So I really hope things will start to happen now!