I was thinking about your thread recently about wanting another child too. Makes me wonder now if that desire might have been more in hopes it might somehow make things better in your marriage -- a distraction perhaps? Please don't have another child with him unless these issues get resolved.

Personally, this might be close to a deal breaker for me as if my husband was basically saying he doesn't love me anymore and wants to branch out, that goes beyond what I could tolerate in my marriage. If your husband can see the error of his thinking and really wants to repair the damage, then work on it I guess. But if he is stuck in this thinking and really doesn't want to work on your marriage, perhaps this might be his way of saying he wants out, but instead of manning up and saying he wants out himself, he's going to piss you off enough that you do it yourself.