Sounded good that he was going to therapy with you, but sheesh...
This would be a deal breaker for me. Now.. after children and marriage together... now he doesn't like the way you kiss? It really is a low blow, and nonsense.

What did the therapist have to say for advice about all this? I think he's trying to hurt you and that it sounds passive aggressive and I don't like it. So sorry you're going through this.