Like HB, I am curious as to why you would expect your husband to go for custody of your son. Are you feeling that this would be not be shared custody?

I don't mean to jump ahead. All may work out for you and your husband. I just want to point out that you are not trapped. I agree with others that your husband appears to be bullying you. You don't deserve this, and you don't have to put up with it. The things you mentioned, schools and living arrangements, can be dealt with. I know you don't want to hurt either of your children, but this isn't your doing if the marriage situation changes.

And the kissing comment, unbelievable. He sounds so selfish. He has not been intimate with you because of kissing? I think he has some deep-seeded issues that have nothing to do you.

Stay strong, Bnlsmom. As you work it out, make sure you keep your health a top priority.

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