Wow ! I read your post and I was livid but also shed some tears. I think your husband is an *** and horrible to you. How dare him make the " kissing" remark yet expect you to somehow be ok and allow him to pursue others.

I personally could not tolerate that nonsense. no way no how, But that is my opinion and I am not in your shoes .

As far as financially taking care of yourself and kids.. Talk with your T or pdoc they can point you in the right direction as far has helping you get housing that you afford IF you decide you need to leave.

My heart goes out to you, I'm so sorry you have pretty much been slapped in the face with hurtful ridiculous nonsense. I think HE has alot of issues he should work on .

He should Man up and be responsible.

Please be good to yourself. Remember you are not trapped, there is always a solution to be found.