Hi. My H and I are in T together. I go alone some times and my H seldom goes alone but it's not unheard of. We are together most of the time. My H sounds much like yours. He's never been violent towards me. I have let my T know how fearful of him I am. He rants and raves alot. She also sees that I cannot tell when I am danger. I stay when I should not. So she agreed to discuss with me first hand what is about to come up. We talk on the phone the day before usually.

Since his anger is easily set into motion some times I have to call her right before I leave my house to let her know no to bring up stuff sometimes. ex. My H's truck broke down and was gonna cost a small fortune to fix. So he was already mad, not a good time to bring up stuff.

She helped me put a plan into action if we/she angered him and I should not go home w/ him. She/we really pissed him off at our last session. He left and I was afraid to leave. She told me I was over reacting. Told me what to say to him. I wrote it on my hand and her number on the other. She followed me half the way home. When I stopped for gas she did to. Just to let me know I was OK. My H drove on, we always drive seperately. It's safer.

It's not gonna be long and my H is gonna want me to quit going. He will stop first. (at this point he may never go back as it stands now) Then he will request I stop going. We'll argue about it. Then he will stop paying for it. Then things really get hard. I have been threw this before. I'm stronger this time. I think. I may just not stay in the marriage. Who knows. Good luck. Keep us informed.