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Originally Posted by greyclouds
Thank you for advice, " a lot of ordering and punishment made by you" did how ever rattle my cage.
Not sure if your even a parent or not, but if a child is not getting dressed for school and your waiting to leave for work! Ordering and punishment ie removing phone dont leave me much choice.
But if you have better solution?
Also my son has been rewarded heavy which I think is the main reason I'm in this situation now.
I don't agree a 10 year old should be rewarded for getting him self dressed every day.
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Actually, I have 3 sons and have taught for 27 years, so I spend 24/7 with kids. I don't have to order my sons or students around generally. I was only basing my response on the little information you gave. You did not mention any kinds of reward at all, only consequences, so I can only base my response on what you say.
I still say you are going to need to engage him actively in coming up with a system that he will buy into. Give him some ownership in this process and he'll be more likely to work with you on this.
I agree, your son shouldn't be rewarded every day for everything, but maybe if you've gone a whole school week and he's basically cooperated in getting himself out the door each morning, a reward that weekend might be in order. Some positive reinforcement, placed as you feel comfortable, is just a kudos for him being cooperative.
You have a son who from the sounds of it is currently not even managing that kind of cooperation two days in a row. So, you start small and work your way up to the point where he does this automatically.