I'll try and keep this simple... I am married, wife happens to be 7 months pregnant (thanks). I feel like a real bastard for having these issues, and perhaps I should, but it can't be helped. First some context:

Sex doesn't seem that important to my wife.. (as a disclaimer, I should mention this was the case BEFORE the child. I'm not so much a **** that I'd expect anything for 9 months of Hell). This situation has gotten worse over just the past couple years (we've been together 6, married 3) and I fully expect some sort of couples counseling down the road.

I've thought about cheating.. I haven't, hope I wouldn't if the option were there, but I can't honestly say. There are a lot of things I miss.

So the current problem then... I have one of those platonic female friends that seem to have not remained so platonic - in my head anyway. We have coffee, talk, she's a really nice outlet for stress, etc. I don't have many friends and she's the only person I can really talk to (other than my wife).

At this point though, it's getting difficult to deal with my feelings for her. I really don't want to cut off or limit the friendship, but I'm not sure there's another solution. I actually mostly avoided her for a couple of weeks, thinking I could calm things down... but we had lunch yesterday and it all came back.

Then of course the whole thing depressed the hell out of me and I ate far too much chocolate as a result...

So anyway, that's about it. Guess I'm looking for advice, or a slap in the back of the head. Maybe both. In any event, thanks for reading.

C