I didn't know that there was still such a stigma about people with BPD. Are you in therapy? Have you been in a DBT group? I have BPD and anxiety too, but my T hates labels and diagnoses. She just wants me to feel better. I'm wondering. Do people in your life KNOW you have BPD? If you don't tell anyone, you won't hear all of those comments. Or are you reading them? We are each unique, and NOT our diagnosis! If I were you, I'd stop paying attention to the stereotypes about BPD women! I'm sure you have many good qualities to offer friends.