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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Morals, principles and boundaries aside, to me a relationship (of any kind) is much like a financial transaction, except the currency is different... If what I am getting out of the relationship, doesn't match what I am putting into it, I AM BEING ROBBED! Would you condone being robbed financially? No, so why do you condone being robbed emotionally?... No judgment here,I'm not in your shoes,nor have I been,or will I,ever be married. Just wanted to provide a different perspective. You deserve better...  |
Well, that is a good framework for discussing relationships. Using this framework, an open relationship could be a solution - it would stop the robbery. You would stop putting your 100% in the relationship with your husband, and hence what he puts into the relationship just might match what you put - you would be equals. But you clearly do not want it. You are very clear on your goals, and you cannot physically pursue them with your husband. So, you (eventually) need a new husband, and you know now very well which features you do NOT want in a guy. That knowledge - what features are a must and what features are thanks, but no thanks, is a good outcome of your marriage. Not all is lost - you have learned something valuable. Good luck with the next man!