I will give you both..... advice and a slap in the head.

You have to be patient and be loving to your wife in other ways outside of the bedroom if you want her to desire to be with you in the bedroom.... thats my advice.

Now - shame on you for turning to another woman for comfort & support instead of going to your wife with your feelings and fears.... dont you know that this is exactly how alot of affairs start.... SLAP! SLAP!

LoVe,
Rhapsody -