Clarification: My son went to stay with family May- mid-august. I was mid psychotic episode (med induced) and my husband was in a deep depression. I slipped into depression and isolation.
My husband's depression decreased a little so he could help care for my son with the help of his cousin.

He went for a med adjustment instead got placed into IOP. He was taken out of IOP day after he started. Our treatment plan: No IOP and only in-patient after mutual agreement between all (7) therapists and pdocs. He requested a change of pdoc but has not received a new one yet. Meaning no med change and he has slipped back into depression and his cousin has take back over parenting for the most part.

As for me after being taken of my AD I slipped into a depression. I have pretty much isolated (including headphones) and became very mute, except for here. I was put on a passed AD and after the second increase I started eating again a little, talking a little, taking off my headphones for a couple of hours and cooking dinner occasionally. I will need to be put on a new AD because my jaw is “hiccuping” again. I'm now only sleep 9-12 hrs a day. Change of a new AD could send me into psychotic episode. I know there are times that my son is afraid of me

As for my husband and my relationship it hasn't been the best obviously. I'm sensitive and he's irritable that is not a good match. I've been a bit paranoid, I had a melt down after my therapists left a voice mail. This was apparently the best time to talk at me that “he's scared he's loosing me”. Anyway things aren't the best between us. I almost left home last night.

We have, with the blessings of our therapists, dis-enrolled in a 3x a week exercise program. So we went from being at the center 4-6 days a week to 1-2x a week. We are keeping our appointments and still taking Miguel to karate 3x a week, and home-school activities. My therapist has separated “our” appointment into mostly my appointment. Our therapists think we're to hard on ourselves. Miguel thinks we're great parents (what kid doesn't idolize their parents though?) any bad thoughts of us he relates to BP.

If this is still not enough info. I'll add more.

So back to this situation: With us generally “in our own world” my husband's cousin has manly took over parenting again. She is leaving for the holidays, and needs to know if he'll be going or staying. I am worried that with med changes that we won't be able to care for each other and Miguel while finding stability. Not like we're being good parents now. We have 1-2 more appointments before he leaves but we need to buy the ticket. He will make the end decision to go “for the holidays”. No family member's will ever know that there is more behind it, neither will he.

Miguel currently has a pdoc and therapist to help him with SI issues, our bipolar and to figure out his particular combination of ADHD, Asperger's, bipolar, OCD and what is learned behavior.

I know it sounds wrong to send him away so much this year. It'll be 4.5 months this year if he goes. We're trying to keep him in an environment that is always stable and away from our personal demons.