These are things I've read from doing research on BPD.. and just view different things on the internet and in the media, comments/references about "crazy women" in general. I know I shouldn't take those things seriously and that the internet's just a cesspool full of a lot ignorant people and trolls, it still irks me.

and yeah, it seems (from dating experiences) that there are a lot of unstable men out there, and while they're aware they have issues, they choose to deal with it on their own instead of seeking out professional help. I'm guessing this has a lot to do with gender roles/norms.. y'know men need to "suck it up".

I don't normally tell people that I have BPD, just a few of my close friends know, so I don't get stigmatized in that respect. But it's usually pretty obvious that I have "issues"... BPD (amongst other things) is a very pervasive thing and stability is difficult for me.