I have read that people with BPD are constantly seeking a parental figure in their lives. They are looking for someone to nurture them. I don't know if this is true for all BPD. But recently after I read that I was I'm disbelief bc I never understood why I did that, for a while I thought maybe I was bisexual. But now I realize it is not that, I want someone to love me and hold me and tell me it is going to be okay, because I never got that growing up.