A nice label also is 'drama queen'...I agree that the stigma makes this disorder that much more crippling and makes people who suffer from it afraid and hesitant to ask for help.

It is very true that once you tell someone you have BPD (and they're not well versed on what the disorder entails and are going by popular opinion) their perception of you will change. I can speak from experience. Those who understand the disorder aren't too phased by it and can often empathize and look at it objectively...but..yes, the stigma is awful.