Landskaperdan,

You are 100% right. A thread does not have to end because I am uncomfortable with it. I am a big girl that has the freedom and responsibility to walk away from anything that causes me to be uncomfortable.

Did you see the length and detail I went to so that Hamster-bamster could have all (many) of the facts to make her choice in a safe and consumer friendly way? Out of the entire post there were just two small references to the fact that I hoped that after she was equipped with this information we could let it drop, because it does bring up some stuff for me that I would rather not remember.

"I can't believe that I am going to reply to your post, but just so that we can end the subject,which makes me uncomfortable on so many levels, and so that you can get the most "bang" for your buck, I highly recommend that you order all of your sexual paraphernalia"

However, because like I have always heard."That's life in the big city," I am wise enough to know that I have no right to control the world and what happens with in it. Hamster-Bamster is doing nothing wrong. On a conscious level I know that there is nothing wrong with sex and play, but inside some parts of my head, I will be glad when this thread gets snipped and swept off the kitchen floor.

Guess what? "There is nothing wrong with me feeling that way either. Go figure, Land...Hamster and I can come from two very different places to the same arena and work it out for ourselves, without fighting or blaming and with complete understanding that when two (or more) people GIVE THEIR CONSENT to enjoy the pleasures of each other, sex is a rockin' mess of fun!

I believe I even wished her a Happy Birthday...let's look, shall we?

"Hamster-Bamster, good luck to you and have a Happy Birthday. You will probably be able to pick up an entire toy chest full of surprises for you and your partner to enjoy."


Well looky there, I sure the heck did! Looks like I covered all of the bases here. Not only was I supportive, informative and looking out for a good persons safety, I was also, for one of the first times in my life, instead of making a sarcastic comment, making the choice to say exactly what I felt and hoped would happen when she had received enough input.

What a great world, Land, don't you think?,

I don't believe in burning books either,

-Fleeing Bellocq