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I understand and have been thinking a lot about this recently. I have learned that I think that my 5'4" body would feel best around 135 to 140. L----- thinks that we need to be around 160 (where we are now) to feel safe, just like your alter. C---- and G------ who are both around 10 yo don't really care how big the body is as long as we keep eating ice cream with Magic Shell and other good treats because that is the only way that they felt loved growing up. L----- is almost anorexic and has been really getting steamed lately that we don't weigh 124 (exactly). And then someone (?) uses eating very sugary foods (brown sugar, marshmallow fluff, sweetened condensed milk) as a way of self-injury. It sounds strange, I know.
So I don't know how to lose the weight and 160 is a little too high for this body to be healthy and feel comfortable. I'm thinking about asking everyone to sign a contract to use food to keep the body healthy and strong, so no eating treats when full or eating to SI or starving to feel thin. If it works I'll let you know!
Oh, and as far as exercise goes, not a single one of my alters has ever enjoyed an organized sport or "exercise" except for the almost anorexic one. Coming to an agreement on how to get the body toned will be another challenge. But, one step at a time and one day at a time.
Elizabeth
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