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Originally Posted by Leed
Is there ANY way possible you could talk her into "family counseling with you. I know it might be difficult but I was hoping that she might want to repair the relationship she has with you, and going to therapy along with you would be a good way for a therapist to get a good "look" at her, and perhaps HE could get her to come to individual sessions with him.  At the same time, he could work on the both of you to repair what is going on between you. I know most of it has to do with what is going on with HER, but he might have some ideas. She sounds like a very strong-willed woman at the present, and I just don't know how you're going to get her to go right now.
It certainly does sound like she's got something going on, as most people don't want to push everyone away -- whether she's severely depressed, it could be.
But unless she agrees to some counseling I don't know what you're going to do! I hope some others here have some ideas because I don't seem to be able to come up with any. With any luck, they'll chime in -- God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee  |
I have asked her in the past to get marriage counseling for her and her husband. She wasn't willing to do that. Not sure if she would agree to it with me. Unless I try to make myself the heavy here and ask her so that "I can" work it out to get along with "her". I was thinking BPD but then NPD too because she won't ever and has never apologized or acknowledged any wrong doing. Guess I should have wondered that years ago. But she is so good at making me out to be the mental case. And I am but I realize NOT the only one here. Seems she deals with friends to get out of them stuff without asking for things. I can't quite put my finger on that one but I have wondered that for a long time. I am an internalizer in that I self injure but she lashes out at everyone. I feel for the kids in hearing it especially when she and my son-in-law fight. You might be on to an answer. Maybe family counseling would be good even if it's made out to be all my fault. Just so the therapist can see my daughter in action. But I can tell you for sure, she does not think she has the problem. It's all of us that do. Thanks
