Hi katje,

I have been dealing with the effects of BPD for many years now, but was also only just recently diagnosed. I am not going to lie to you, the BPD diagnosis is a hard one. The main reason for that is once that diagnosis is down on a page with your name attached to it, the whole mental health community starts to look at you in a different way, whether they mean to or not. Mental health professionals are not trying to act differently around those with BPD, but they do. By this I mean that they tend to shy away from working with people with BPD and they tend to have certain stereotypes about individuals diagnosed with BPD.

I understand the pain you are feeling after the loss of your relationship. I have lost many important relationships to me in the past, including both friends and boyfriends. Just realize that, from what it seems to me, this friendship declining was not necessarily your fault. People change when they have children, it is a fact of life. They spend less time with friends and more time with family. That does not mean that this friend intentionally tried to hurt you.

I hope that what I said helped a little. If you have any questions about what BPD looks like or what it feels like to have it, please read "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me." This book is an EXCELLENT resource for people with BPD.

Best of luck and welcome to the boards!