Red flag 1: backing you into a corner- CONTROLLING. Red flag 2: manipulating you. Red flag 3: emotionally blackmailing you. Red flag 4: Blaming you for HIS reactions. Red Flag 5: Verbal abuse. Red flag 6: Alcoholism. Red flag 7: Throwing things (my ex started off like yours, he eventually beat me to a pulp) ... So while I dont usually tell others what to do, here's what I would do... RUN! this guy is in NO way at a place in his life where he can sustain a HEALTHY relationship. You deserve so much better.